|A visit to the Pacific Ocean in San Francisco|
Have I any hope of following the rules here, or will I constantly be in trouble when Aunt Rebecca comes to call? (And which rules do you think apply to the 21st century?)
My dear niece,
I take pen in hand to leave a list of rules you will find most beneficial to refining some of your impetuous ways. I'm sure your mother would agreed. So, without further ado, please remember to always . . .
· Wear gloves on the street, in church, or in other formal occasions, except when eating or drinking.
· Graciously accept gentlemanly offers of assistance.
· Stand up when an elderly person or dignitary enters a room, comes within your presence, or stands.
· Remember that silence is golden.
· Speak gently and graciously (no matter your true feelings); assume the best in any situation; practice the art of conversation.
· Stand and sit properly; good posture is essential
· Be in good taste.
· Make others feel welcome in your presence; be gentle and patient.
There are certain things you must never do. Some that come to mind include:
· Do not speak in a loud, coarse voice (never shout or yell).
· Do not call someone by their first name in public.
· Do not lift your skirts higher than absolutely necessary to go up stairs.
· Never st with your legs crossed except at the ankles if necessary for comfort.
· Do not lift your skirts up onto a seat, stool, or chair. Instead, wait for assistance when sitting down at a table on or a chair, especially if it is small or light.
· Do not participate in any games which would result in you being kissed or handled in any way.
If a hand approaches a bit of jewelry, step back and unpin it for inspection.
· Never speak or act in anger; do not boast or brag.
· Do not remove your gloves when making a formal visit.
· Do not be nosy or overly inquisitive; do not meddle or tell tales.
· Never stare around the room when visiting, or walk about examining the furnishings unless invited to do so.
Andrea, remember that a true lady will go quietly and unobtrusively about her business when on the street, never seeking to attract the attention of the opposite sex, at the same time recognizing acquaintances with a courteous bow, and friends with pleasant words of greeting.
After reading this list, I wondered why Auntie never writes any rules for the boys. Well, I found one that she wrote a long time ago! Stay tuned for her "Rules for Gentlemen."